I’ve been in an unbothered state lately, for maybe one of the first times ever, and it is a wonderful feeling. As someone who’s struggled with my mental health on and off for several years, being in an unbothered state is a major win. It took a lot of work to get here and I’m just really enjoying it, hoping it lasts for a long time. I was thinking back to the last time I felt like this, and came to the conclusion that I haven’t ever, for as long as I can remember.
Being unbothered means that really not much bothers me right now. My anxiety isn’t high. The little things aren’t irritating me as much. The big things don’t seem so big. I’m worrying less. I don’t get upset when people aren’t treating me how I would like to be treated. I just don’t care. I understand even more that I can only control the things I can control. I’ve been so in the present moment, barely thinking about what’s next and just enjoying what I have now, without unnecessary worries or fears. I’m not overthinking at all. My brain isn’t going 100 miles a minutes, it has minimal thoughts. My Oura Ring tracks stress levels, and they are significantly lower (two days in a row this weekend it was in the 0 min stress zone I cried I was so happy) It’s the most zen feeling and I am really savoring it.
It took a lot of work to get here and I’m just really enjoying it, hoping it lasts for a long time. All of the books I read, all of the journaling I do, all of the Pinterest quotes I save, all of the hoping and praying, literally everything, just worked one day. I would read these books about mindset and living in the present, and being mindful and not letting things get to you, and just sat there wishing and praying that could be my brain, but never thinking I could actually get there.
I wrote this post about the ebbs and flows when I was in an ebb that lasted a couple of months. I was just not feeling it. Everything upset me at a higher level (and a lot happened too). I accepted the ebb and knew it wouldn’t last and it just makes me appreciate the flows even more. But this unbothered state? I’m appreciating it SO much more. I really think my poor brain and nervous system were overworked and said ENOUGH, let’s just give her what she wants: a non-overthinking, chill, present state. So, bless them.
ILY. please last for a long time.
Thank you Megan, you are so right!! It’s about not caring about what you can’t control. Would you mind sharing some details about your job switch? I’d be super interested to hear about that.
That sounds so amazing! I sometimes think I don’t care enough if you know what I mean? I don’t love my job so I honestly don’t care about it. I sometimes don’t care about the way I look or my house looks. Is there something like too much “not caring”? Just a thought I’ve had going through my head.